Frequently Asked Questions                                                                                      

I've only ever played with my partner at home, I've never even been to a club, would I fit in? New people to the scene are always made to feel welcome, these events are meant to be fun (well at least for the Ladies) you can come along and just have a chat and enjoy the atmosphere, your slave can sit quietly at your feet if he feels nervous about participating.

I've never used a toy in public, what if I get it wrong? This is not a competitive environment, no-one will be showing off or making derogatory remarks. More experienced Ladies are always happy to share their knowledge and skills, as are some of the slaves to be practised upon! Whether it be learning Japanese rope bondage, CP or instruction on how to train a male to do a proper pedicure I'm sure someone will be happy to advise.

Is there a quiet area for us to play on our own? Yes, you can arrange to use the dungeon or pony farm in private.

What to wear? Ladies: Whatever you feel comfortable in - from full fetish to ordinary clothes. Obviously if we are having an outdoor event, like a slave hunt, sensible foot wear is advisable, DM's or trainers. Slaves: usually a T-shirt and shorts for day wear but feel free to bring scene wear.

What if I don’t feel like playing? Do what you feel comfortable with - we just ask guests not to intrude on others who are.

Do I have to participate in games? You aren’t under any pressure to do anything you don’t want to, you can attend a party and just enjoy the atmosphere.

Is it safe for my slave to participate in games which involve other Mistresses? Yes, all play is consensual, Mistresses are only allowed to symbolically punish a slave they don't know, unless it has been agreed in advance by the slave's owner.

Am I assured of confidentiality? Yes, your details are not passed on to anyone else.

What costs are involved? Once you have joined all parties are free, just bring a bottle.

Although at the Femdom week in May there is a nominial charge of £60pp ish to cover accommodation, breakfast and dinner for the week. If we hire a venue to hold a party then the cost of the venue is split between those attending.

Am I to old or young to attend? The average age of people attending is about 40, although we have quite a few people in their 60s (and beyond) who regularly attend as well as some younger people of about 30.

How many people usually attend a party? Up until now most parties have had between 20-30 people, which is the most I can accommodate. We are looking for a bigger venue, although that number works quite well for catering and atmosphere.

Are Male Doms allowed to attend? Definitely not at a Femdom Party.

Can I attend as a single slave? Yes, if you can find a Mistress to accompany you, I like to keep the numbers roughly 45% Ladies 55% slaves/maids.

Can I attend as a maid? Yes, I have a permanent maid but there are limited spaces for up to two extra maids per party, but maids are expected to work hard ie. serve on table and wash up etc, etc.

Is nudity allowed? At specific events only, for example if the slaves perform a striptease (although I have attended when the Ladies have instructed some less attractive slaves to keep their underwear on!) .

How do I attend a party? Before you can attend a party you need to join the Society, there is a one off joining fee of £10 which is just a way of verifying your details and also shows a commitment to the club. I also meet all the people who want to attend a party first either at a munch, fetish club or a local pub to ensure they are genuine, which acts as a safeguard for everybody attending.